They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.
Words not backed by emotions are as futile as a monkey’s fat. People often forget that man is not just a social, but also an emotional being. If mere words could convey everything, speech would have been rendered useless long ago, especially in today’s digital age. It is, therefore, of paramount importance to invest our emotions in not just everything we say, but also in everything we do.
How many of you remember what your parents said when they brought you those birthday presents in our childhood? Or what your partner said when you held hands for the first time? Barring the odd person, it is safe to assume that most of us do not remember any of the words that were exchanged on those special days of our lives. In fact, sometimes we even forget the person themselves, much less what they said, but the emotions we experienced linger on and continue to do so for as long as we are alive. That is just the thing with feelings; they are the best friends of our memory, which does not really bond that well with words or other verbal modes of communication.
Remember, rehearsed words said matter-of-factly mean very little; if anything, they tend to give the impression that you are taking things or people for granted. However, the same words, when uttered with even a hint of emotion from the depths of our heart, can make a world of difference to our relationships. It is, after all, moments like these that outlive anything words could ever convey.
Maya Angelou was a well-known American poet and civil rights activist. She once remarked: “They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.” It is noteworthy that this quote is also occasionally attributed to the American writer, poet and theologian, Carl W. Buechner.