Jumping to conclusions seldom leads to happy landings.
As humans, our instinctive response to tricky situations is to trust our senses. We form our judgments based on what our eyes see and our ears hear. We regard our senses as infallible. However, things are rarely so straightforward.
Certain situations in life force us into making a judgment in the heat of the moment. We are rushed into making a decision, completely disregarding the fact that things are seldom as black and white as they might seem at first. Our brain processes the limited information it is fed by our senses and jumps to conclusions that seem obvious at the time, but are anything but once common sense begins to prevail. More often than not, remorse is the first and only choice we have once that happens. Such erroneous conclusions have the potential to damage years of trust. Unfortunately, once lost, it is pretty much impossible to get that trust back.
The correct approach to such sensitive situations is to regain our composure. You do not want your emotions to get the better of you, so it helps to have a cool head. While our natural reaction might be to believe what we see or hear, it is always advisable to approach the situation calmly. To do this, you can always take a couple of seconds to get back in control. It also helps to give the other person an opportunity to explain their side of the story. This can save us a lot of embarrassment, especially later on, when we are composed enough to realize that we could have dealt with the situation better.
Steve Siporin is professor emeritus in English and folklore history at the Utah State University. Siporin is known to have remarked: “Jumping to conclusions seldom leads to happy landings.”