Children are like wet cement. Whatever falls on them makes an impression.
Human beings are arguably at their most fragile – both physically and psychologically – in their childhood. Whatever they learn or perceive during this innocent phase of their lives stays with them until their very last breath. How parents make use of this fact is really up to them. Children who grow up in a happy, secure environment are far more likely to become better citizens than kids whose childhood was mired in negativity or violence.
This applies to a child’s confidence as well. A person who has grown up listening “you can’t” is not very likely to head into his future endeavors with a confident mindset. On the other hand, parents who are supportive of their child even in his failures will most probably end up raising an enterprising citizen.
The thing with children is whatever they learn during the early days of their lives, whether intended or not by their parents, stays with them forever. In fact, as adults, they are more likely to impart the same values to their own children.
That is why so much importance is attached to parenting and the responsibility that comes with it, and rightly so. After all, what a child learns in the confines of their home or school is what they will replicate in their personal and social lives as an adult. It is, therefore, paramount for their parents, teachers and elders to treat them with love and patience. Even if one has not been the perfect parent to their kids, it is never too late to make amends for past mistakes and inculcate good habits in their little angels.
Haim Ginott was a well-known child psychologist and psychotherapist from Israel. He once commented: “Children are like wet cement. Whatever falls on them makes an impression.” It is noteworthy that this quote is also often attributed to the American psychoanalyst, Marti Olsen Laney.